John Acton’s
Life Story Part 3
Epilogue – 1938 to 2015
Despite appeasement efforts
by Neville Chamberlain, a war to stop Hitler’s grandiose expansion plans and
vile treatment of Jewish and other minorities seemed inevitable. Nevertheless I
was stunned when War against Germany
was actually declared on Sunday 3rd September 1939. Standing with my
Dad under the cherry tree at the gate to Elm Lodge, I said, “How can grown men
be so stupid? It’s MAD. ”
My Dad agreed, sadly.
An immediate response from brother Ken and
two or more of his friends in their local Amateur Radio Club, was to quit their jobs and join the
Armed Services as radio operators.
I was still working in the Custom House in London . I had taken my
second E.O. exam earlier but was below the successful line. However, with the
onset of war the intake was extended and thus I scraped by (once again) to take
up an Executive Officer job in Customs on 19.12.1939. My Dad was also upgraded
to temporary HEO.
I met
another new young EO in the Custom House called Alan Mason, with a home in Leigh-on-Sea.
We soon became firm friends. We usually had lunch together and enjoyed short
walks round the City and also the banks of the Thames
at low tide. When he enlisted in the Army
some time in !940 (I believe), we both agreed to keep in touch
throughout the War, and so we did.
Meanwhile, I continued with commuting to the
Office, piano lessons and tennis at the Brentwood Club section of the Essex Cricket Club. I met a lot of
friendly youngsters there, including girls. One girl in particular I dated, but
the relationship fizzled out after a while. I remember once sheltering in a
wide ditch at the tennis club in September 1940, while overhead we saw Spitfires
and Messerschmitts shooting at one another in furious dog-fights. A battling
pair of fighters came down very low, possibly 200 or so feet above us. We could
hear the rattle of machine gun-fire with spent cartridges falling to the
ground. It was an awesome close-up of a
critical stage in what became known as the Battle of Britain.
While playing tennis in 1940 I fell
awkwardly and badly injured my left knee. It was an injury that was never properly diagnosed until six months later by
a West End Osteopath, Dr Wareing. The inner ligament had jerked out of place.
In a dramatic session after massage with olive oil, Dr Wareing gave a sudden
wrench on my knee. There was an audible click as the ligament was pushed back
into its correct slot. For the first time since my fall, I could bend my left
leg properly. I was instructed to take off the bandage and massage daily with olive
oil. I was still doing this when I was called up into the RAF on 25.6.41 to
train as a Wireless Mechanic.
Brother Ken and myself
Following kitting out with uniform at a
small aerodrome, Stapleford Tawney in Essex , I
was due to be posted up North to Padgate for initial training. I had one Sunday
free in Essex and decided to take a bus into
Romford. There I discovered a Methodist
Church with a morning
service just beginning. I went in. The hymns were familiar and reminded me of Manor Park .
The sermon was based on Luke’s story of
Simon, a Pharisee, who invited Jesus to a dinner at his house, but neglected to give him the
customary greetings reserved for more honoured guests. A fallen woman was also
there, weeping and wetting Jesus’ feet with her tears. She used her hair to dry
them and then anointed them with expensive perfume. Jesus compared her welcome
with that of Simon and rebuked him saying, among other things, “You gave me no
kiss.” Then the Minister challenged us on our treatment of Jesus. Might a day
come when Jesus might say to us, “You gave me no kiss.” I must apologise for
this somewhat crude summary of the story, but it had a big impact on me. From
then on I attempted to find out more about this Jesus. whom I had neglected for
so long.
I had a tough two weeks at Padgate (near Warrington ) square-bashing
in my new boots. It was tough on my feet and my weak left knee which swelled a
little. I used my private bottle of
olive oil for massage every
night and just avoided having to go sick. We had to march through Warrington carrying our heavy kit-bags before catching a
train to London .
A few days in billets in Portman
Square and then transfer to civilian billets close
to Battersea Polytechnic for technical training. This was heaven after Padgate.
The course was amazingly comprehensive, including metal working, soldering,
theoretical magnetism and electricity and radio reception and transmission. We had
free time most evenings and Sunday. I was able to get some social contacts at a
local chapel which ran a Junior
Church on Sunday
mornings. After tests in which I did well, I with four or five others were
selected for teacher training. We were eventually
given the rank of Temporary Wireless Mechanic Corporal and posted to Cranwell
to complete our training on the specialised equipment used in RAF aircraft and
ground Wireless stations.
I was soon given my own class-room teaching
about wireless receivers as used in the RAF. It was a real privilege to be at
Cranwell. We worked hard six days a week
but most of Sunday was usually free. They had a music society which met weekly,
gramophone recitals one week and live music the next. They also had a decent grand
piano ! Corporal Peter Sallis (later famous for acting as Cleg in the ‘Last of the Summer Wine’)
was secretary. I soon got to know this
witty character. I was often invited to play piano solos and also to be an accompanist for the many
amateur musicians in the ranks of the RAF. One such was Cpl Ronald Huddy, a
skilled violinist. We were able to practise for hours together on V and P Sonatas
by Beethoven, Mozart etc. I had never previously enjoyed such exciting music.
We sometimes missed our Sunday lunch so as to get in a little more practice. We
became close friends and kept in touch until well after the War. We also had
professional musicians visit to entertain us and I got to know pianist Denis
Matthews through this. I was faced with accompanying all manner of singers and
instrument players. So many that my weak sight-reading began to improve ready
for my Diploma attempt after the War ended. I am ashamed to mention that in
addition to these musical delights, we also had use of an indoor swimming pool.
Brother Ken
in the Army had progressed to Sergeant. In June 1942 he became engaged to Mary
Haynes of Honiton. On 3rd December of
the same year he, married her in the
local Honiton C of E Church. I was very privileged to be his Best Man. Mary’s
mother, Mrs Haynes, was a widow and very charming. She got on well with my
Mum and Dad. Ken and Mary were well
suited and obviously deeply in love. So we were all delighted, even though it
was only a short break from the stress of War for Ken.
Ken’s marriage to Mary Haynes at Honiton,
Devon
Back at Cranwell during 1943 Ron Huddy and I
kept busy playing V and P sonatas plus
my solos and accompaniments at the Music Society. Ron and I were also invited a
couple of times to give concerts at the Sleaford Music Society. At the swimming
pool I learned to dive off the swinging
trapeze and swim two continuous lengths under water.
In November 11943 I had to go sick with
Impetigo. This may well have upset one
of a number of overseas postings I had which never took place..
On 19.2.1944 I began a series of postings to
active service aerodromes that led to Selsey, South of Chichester, where I
witnessed the first of Hitler’s ‘Doodle-Bugs’ to arrive. We were preparing to
take part in Eisenhower’s Tactical Air Force. My immediate job was to equip a
30cwt van with wireless mechanic tools. Then use them ( with a couple of staff)
to maintain and repair wireless
equipment in Spitfires and Hurricanes. These planes were adapted to carry
cameras to help in reconnaissance and photograph D Day landings. [This all
happened while, unbeknown to me, brother Ken was with the allied invading army
on D Day plus three.] We were all inoculated ready for overseas service when
there was a sudden check.
An inspection from a high ranking Officer
one day, highly praised our well prepared mobile workshops, signals,
instruments, fitters, engineering, etc. Then he said, “These vans are just what I need at ---------- (some place in France ). I must have them
urgently.” We were all devastated. We had lost our vans, but we were disbanded
and sent off to various places.
Happy group of fellow
mechanics at Blackbushe Aerodrome
[ I am on the left of the top
row. Third from the left is Ken (Basher) Howe, one of my chums who was later posted
to Japan and wrote to me
from Hiroshima .
He died quite a few years ago. I remained in touch with his family.]
I went
off to Blackbushe in Surrey, Ruislip in London
and then to Bletchley where I worked eight hour shifts maintaining the giant
transmitters and receivers of this
important communication hub for the war effort. We had no idea of the secret
decoding work being done in various huts on the site. But we presumed there must be a number of people involved
in deciphering the teleprinted tapes. On the night shift, as Corporal with just
two or three men, I was in sole charge of keeping the transmitters, receivers and teleprinters working.
[I
earned a Bletchley badge for my short service. But I was dismayed to see only
the Mansion remaining with all the extensions to house the giant transmitting
valves, and other signals gear completely gone, when I visited a few years ago.]
Brother Ken was demobbed on 17.12.1945 after
the arduous and heroic invasion of France . He told me he had at least two
drivers shot alongside him while travelling. He also nearly lost his life from
asphyxiation in the back of his signals van. Fortunately he was pulled out and
revived just in time. When I saw him he looked really fit. He said he had
survived with three narrow squeaks. He was rejoicing to be safely home with
Mary and their baby daughter Maureen, my niece, born on 15.4.1944.
My service at Bletchley ended in June 1946. I was finally demobbed on
22.6.1946. In my five years in the RAF I had been given five or six overseas
postings and three embarkation leaves, but I never left England . Two
postings failed because of my going sick with infections (Impetigo and
Scabies). The others failed due to the ‘exigencies of war’ or plain
administrative inefficiency. I was really embarrassed and annoyed when my third
embarkation leave came to naught. But now I was FREE with 56 days of glorious
leave before going back to my waiting job in Customs and Excise.
Back home in my Demob Suit (courtesy of the
RAF), I sent off for the LRAM Performer’s Prospectus. After a short break I
started piano practice in earnest - nothing less than four or more hours a day
would be needed to master and memorise the forty minutes performer’s programme
by December, even though I had been working on some pieces such as the Beethoven Appassionata for
years. At home I now had an old Ibach Boudoir
Grand that I bought locally for £75 in April 1945. It made a huge difference to
my ability to master difficult finger work. I renewed lessons with Miss Hill.
Nearer the time of the examination she arranged three or four venues where I
could get concert playing experience. One was at the Kingsway Hall in London where the Minister,
Rev. Donald Soper,(well-known for his open-air debates on Tower Hill) also
played a clever comic piano piece.
My mother came with me to the Royal Academy
of Music for the performance exam on 19.12.46. It was bitterly cold and when I
started on the Bach prelude, I fumbled and begged to be allowed to warm my
hands at the open fire. The two elderly
examiners were sympathetic and agreed. After that all went reasonably
well. The next day I sat for the paperwork tests. After Christmas I heard that
I had passed on practical performance but was a mark or two short on one of the
theory papers. I had two more chances of sitting the paperwork tests within a
year and pass all three to gain the
coveted diploma. I was reminded of my struggles to pass the EO exam.
Office work continued happily now at City
Gate House, Finsbury Square .
I met up with Alan Mason who suggested a short hiking Youth Hostel holiday in
the Peak District. He had also promised such a holiday to his sister when the
war was over. He asked me, “Would that be all right with you? If so I will organise
it.” (I dimly remembered my school
friend Grave asking me a somewhat similar question.) I gratefully accepted his
kind offer. So it was on 25.3.1947 that I first met Doreen Mason with her
brother at St Pancras Station in time to catch the 8.55 a.m. train to Sheffield . She was quiet, pretty and natural. I was
impressed.
During the journey I explained that I was
preparing for my second attempt on the LRAM paperwork, and needed to work on a
four part harmony exercise. They kindly kept quiet but probably thought me odd.
At one point Doreen offered me a pear. I felt I should accept it and started to
eat it . Then I was horrified to find
later that they were sharing the only other pear they
had. This incident became a family joke.
Our five days went very well thanks to
Alan’s careful planning. The Peak scenery was great. We went across Mam Tor in
mist and clambered down steep slopes carefully holding hands for safety (Alan’s instructions). One or two
evenings in a hostel, I ventured to play
some of my classic piano pieces. By the third day I had completely lost my
heart to Doreen. She was highly intelligent like her brother, natural and
beautiful. I dared not say anything to Alan, who had told me Doreen ought to go
on to University. When we got home, I now had two aims. The first was to get to know Doreen better
and the second was to keep up my music theory studies,
In September 1946 I had bought my first car,
a 1933 sports SS9 two-seater for £200. It was a very poor bargain and often
broke down. Reasonable second hand cars were difficult to find at that time. I
had joined Ken’s old Hockey Club and was using the car to go to various hockey
matches in Essex , sometimes giving lifts to
other players.
So it was in this car that I first drove
down to 39 Marguerite Drive ,
Leigh-on-Sea to see Doreen. Alan was surprised but accepted my interest. I had
a very warm welcome from Doreen’s parents. The car did not behave well. The
engine tended to stall, probably with a choked carburettor. It was very
embarrassing. On one occasion, not the first, I was fiddling with it for hours.
I took Doreen out in the car on local trips. On 19th April 1947 I noted, ‘Visited Southend Pier with Doreen.’
I
discovered that she worked in a Bank of England office in Finsbury Circus,
which was not far from my Customs office
in Citygate House, Finsbury Square .
We planned to meet secretly in the lunch hour and perhaps have a quick snack in
a nearby café. This was great fun and worked well for a few times. My office
people never found out, but two or three of Doreen’s office colleagues spotted
us and I had to be formally introduced.
Visits to Leigh-on- Sea continued. Doreen took me to her
Baptist Church at the top of her road for the
Sunday morning service. The Minister was the Rev. John Pritchard, who gave
eloquent penetrating sermons in the style of the Manor Park Methodist preacher
of my early teen years. Doreen and I had serious talks about what we believed.
Her faith had been helped by her involvement in the local Girls Crusaders Union
group. She said I needed to commit my life to Jesus before she could consider
deepening our relationship.
I recalled that early sermon from the
Romford Methodist preacher about Jesus
saying to Simon, “You gave me no kiss.” Apart from odd occasions, I had
neglected Him in favour of progress at work or in piano music. Now I was
striving and praying for God to help me believe in the reality of Jesus, and
not just because I wanted to win the love of Doreen. I told her that I appreciated what she had said. I was
trying hard to gain a faith like hers. On 26th April I took her to
see a play in London
called “Candida”. That same evening I played (by invitation) at a second
concert in the Kingsway Hall ( Dohnanyi, Leo Livens and Chopin). I think my Dad
separately crept in to hear my performance, so as not to intrude on me and my
girl.
On a couple of restless nights in late April
or May, I had strange experiences of an
inner voice saying to me that “Jesus is
real. Jesus is real.” Nothing will ever shake me from this certainty or the
need to do something about it.
On 3rd May 1947 I was a
contestant at the Wanstead Open Chopin competition. I won it playing the last
movement of the Third Chopin Sonata in B Minor, the most difficult Chopin I had
ever mastered The competition was closely contested and the top two contestants
each had to play a repeat section. I was declared the winner by a very small
margin. I came out of the hall elated, started my car and drove all the way to Marguerite Drive
where I had been invited to stop the night. Alan was taking part that evening
in a local Musical called Rose Marie.
The next day, Sunday, I took Doreen for a drive after lunch. I told her of my
desire to commit my life to Jesus and would she marry me. She expressed her
delight but cautiously said she needed a little more time to consider it.
On another Sunday I sought an interview with
John Pritchard and he led me in a prayer of commitment. Doreen supported me and
I was deeply moved. On Sunday 18th May 1947 Doreen promised to marry
me. At her Mum’s suggestion, I went to see her Dad in the front parlour and
formally asked his permission to marry his daughter. He shyly agreed - I think
he was as embarrassed as I was. So we
were now engaged. I had to think about getting Doreen a suitable ring and
working out a wedding date. It was also Alan’s birthday but I don’t think he
was around. When I did see him , strangely enough I remember it was at Liverpool
Street Station. He rushed over and gave me a wonderful brotherly greeting. “I
am so glad you are now part of our family. If there is anything I can do for
you, just ask me,” he said. Then came meetings with Doreen’s elder brother
Charlie and his wife Dorothy and most importantly of all, my Mum and Dad. It
took a few days to choose and buy the engagement ring. I see from my diary that
the 28th May was treated as
our official engagement day with Doreen wearing the ring.
Photo taken by Ken's wife Mary
It was probably just before Doreen came for a
weekend at Elm Lodge. My Mum immediately embraced her in welcome with my Dad a
little less demonstrative. There were also congratulations coming in from Ken
and Mary at Honiton, Devon . Mary was expecting
her second child. Peter John Acton duly arrived on 20th June 1947.
Our wedding plans moved swiftly ahead . I sold my car for a low price. I knew I could
not afford a car and marriage at this
stage We fixed the date of 20th September 1947 for our wedding
at the Leigh Road Baptist
Church .
Wedding Day photo taken by Uncle Eddie Bonner
Wedding group of family and friends in the garden at Leigh Road Baptist Church
But where we should live remained a tricky
problem. My Dad and Mum generously solved it for us by offering to let us use two
or three rooms at Elm Lodge. We had the West top bedroom and attic, with the
little staircase leading down to a small store room at the back of the house.
In this back room we installed a gas cooker and a small ceramic sink with only
a pail for a drain. I provided the running water by running from our back door
to Mum’s kitchen with a jug. Dad worked it all out and we thought it was
heavenly. Of course I still had my grand piano in the front room under our
bedroom.
Doreen resigned from the Bank of England two
or three weeks in advance of the wedding and my mother helped her with getting
needed household items. We sent off lots of invitations and received many
gifts. We also booked our honeymoon, two weeks at a modest hotel in Ambleside
in the Lake District . It all happened so
quickly, the wedding, friends and family photos, reception, speeches (including
that of Best Man Ken), cards and presents, one night in a London Hotel and rail
journey to Ambleside. The late September weather was unusually fine. We ranged freely
over the glorious countryside with its hills and lakes.
Bliss - exploring the Lake District on our Honeymoon
We thanked God morning and evening for His gracious
goodness to us. It was a taste of Heaven
even if we were a little hungry at times due to food rationing.
Then we came home to Elm Lodge and another
warm welcome. My Mum cooked us a couple of meals. Then she said, “It’s up to
you now to get all your own meals.” Doreen was not very experienced in cooking,
but she quickly acquired a smll library of recipes and cook books. When I came
home from work, I would see her com e staggering out of our kitchen with a load
of books before bringing in the meal. I enjoyed my office work but going home
to Doreen every evening was such a huge delight. Could life get any better ? We
found it could.
Crusaders,
Because of
Doreen’s GCU contacts, I had a visit one evening from J.M.Vellacott, the leader
of the local boys’ Crusader Class. He badly wanted a pianist to play the hymns
and choruses in the Sunday afternoon class at Brentwood School ,
leaving him free to give the lessons, etc. He was charming and I readily
agreed. Little did I know then that Crusaders would become one of the special things
I should do for the Lord. I stayed for
some 38 years at Brentwood Crusaders, eventually becoming the senior Leader of the Class.
Brentwood Crusaders Whitsun Camp at Danbury 1972
I wish I could safely remember all the
names although the faces are familiar.
Top row from the left I think there is Keith Ison (now an OBE) followed by
naughty Paul Wickens holding a bucket over someone. Next to that someone to the
left I think is Rowan Callick (now an OBE) and left again is Philip Bender.
Also in that row are Alan Hayman (missionary and TV producer) and wearing
glasses, David Ison (now Dean of St Paul’s). In the third line down, second
from left is my a stalwart Scottish
co-leader, Alan Campbell, then Kenneth
Horsnell, a friend of mine who acted as ‘Padre’ for this camp.
I am still in touch with some of my fellow
leaders and old boys to-day. I look up with awe at a number who have achieved and continue to achieve so much in their
service for the Lord.
CSCU – Customs Branch
I must go back now to my early day of marriage.
At work I enquired whether there was a Christian Union. I discovered that
pre-War there had been a Customs
branch of the Civil Service
Christian Union. Doreen had a Christian friend working in Customs,, Margaret
Wilkinson. She and two or three others
agreed to help if I could restart the CSCU
Customs branch. After contact with central CSCU, I wrote formally to our
Head Office seeking the necessary permission to start and to put up a Notice.
This was speedily given and we started a half an hour weekly lunch-time meeting
in the nearby Billingsgate Mission Hall that had been established for the fish
porters and market traders. It was agreed that I should be secretary and invite
speakers one week, while members themselves would undertake a Bible study alternate
weeks. Later we also had a weekly prayer meeting. These meetings continued,
sometimes at different venues and were still being held when I retired at the
end of 1980.
Start of our own family
A
visit by Doreen to our local doctor on 28.11.47 confirmed that she was
pregnant. I felt sure it would be a boy.
We praised the Lord for His goodness to us. We had been visiting the
local Churches and finally settled on Brentwood Baptist
Church , where we were
made very welcome.
For my Birthday on 12th December
1947, Doreen gave me a Schofield Bible which I found interesting. Following
Christmas festivities at Elm Lodge, we received an invitation to Doreen’s brother Alan’s wedding to Kip Redman at Leeds on
12.3.48. I was honoured to be his Best Man. Kip’s father was a Methodist
Minister and there were other Methodist Clerics there: at least two of them commenced their speech by saying, “Unaccustomed as I am
to public speaking ….” which caused some amusement.
Coming home from work on 8th May
1948 I saw Doreen waiting for me at the door waving a letter. I saw it was from
the Royal Academy of Music. I rapidly opened it to find that I had finally
passed the LRAM paperwork by a very
small margin. As I kissed her thankfully,
I realised I had just scraped through on my last chance to gain the
Performer’s Diploma. My Mum was so
pleased. If I had been much younger, I am sure my Dad would have given me
another £1 for persistence.
On First July 1948 baby
Thomas Alan Acton arrived. He weighed 8lb and 11 oz which meant a difficult
time for dear Doreen. They came home to Elm Lodge on 14.7.48. Doreen had various baby
management books and we wrestled with strictly disciplined feeding time
schedules as against ‘feeding on
demand’. The latter finally won.
Thomas (about two years)
and I outside Elm Cottage
We enjoyed a brief visit from
Ken and Mary and Doreen’s Mum during this period. My Mum loved giving Thomas a
4 o’clock cuddle no matter what schedule he was on.
I must now begin to finish this detailed
history with just a few dates :-
1.12.48 Doreen, I and Thomas moved to Elm Cottage
(Dad’s gift). Shortly after this Dad and Mum moved to Aventine on the Hammer Tower estate. After a few months they
moved first to St Osyth and then to
central Clacton , 41 Hung Road .
8.8.49 Doreen and I were baptised
by full immersion ,at Brentwood Baptist
Church . Later we did
spells as deacons, etc., and held a weekly home Bible Study group.
2.1.50 I was promoted to HEO
in Customs
27.7.50 Alice Mary Acton (our
second child) was born
14.5.52 Building plans for a
four bedroom detached house and garage in Holmwood Avenue , Shenfield were approved
(My design redrawn by an architect for the Council)). We named it ‘Limpsfield’
as the Avenue had not yet been assigned numbers. We loved it when people asked
us whether we had a connection with Limpsfield, Surrey .
We would answer, “No. It is the name of a hymn tune - We have heard a glorious
sound, Jesus saves.”
17.6.52 Jonathan Ralph Acton
(our third child) was born.
2.1.53 Completion of building
on our plot 50 by 200 feet of ploughed
field. We moved in shortly afterwards.
23.2.54 Billy Graham started
his London
campaign. I went and was impressed by the evident blessing. I later became a
Counsellor at all the subsequent BG missions that I could reach and duly
followed up converts I had counselled.
25.7.55 Sarah Jane Acton (our
forth child) was born.
22.6.68 James Richard
Benjamin Acton (our fifth child) arrived by design as did the others and not by
chance.
Family Growth
As you can see, we have been
blessed with five children who are happily married (one civil contract) and
each couple has given us one or more grandchildren (eight to date). Some
grandchildren have already married and given us six great grandchildren to
date. Sadly Doreen and I have both lost our parents and siblings. But we keep
in touch with the Acton, Bates and Mason families and occasionally get
together. Way back we had lovely family holidays with the children.
Customs career.
I proceeded up the executive
promotion ladder ,SEO,CEO and then Senior Inspector (SCEO equivalent). I stayed
in London all
this time despite being made the first Customs Staff Inspector; and later the
departmental grade of Senior Inspector. Each time Head Office intervened after
a while to keep me available in general personnel work. I think that God was
behind this, as running the Brentwood Crusader Class and also keeping my family
home and children’s schooling stable was a great privilege. Towards the end of
my service I was rewarded with two invitations for Doreen and myself to
Buckingham Palace Garden Parties. I retired at 60, December 1980. To my very
great surprise I was awarded an OBE early the following year..
Retirement
During my 38 years service in
Crusaders, I had very little spare time, as we were both active in Church and
also ran a weekly Bible study home group. Doreen was very busy bringing up five
children. I overdid my activities at one time and had to try and cut them down.
Pressure eased a little as the children started University .
Doreen was finally able to start her academic
studies with the Open University, where she obtained a BA 2:1.
The adult children began getting degrees.
Our first son Thomas had a specially distinctive career by achieving an Oxford
Doctorate, with his rejected first thesis being published as “Gypsy Politics
and Social Change”. My former superior in Customs who became Sir Angus Fraser,
later told me that he found Thomas’ book ‘Life-changing.’ Greenwich University
finally created a special Chair for
Thomas and made him Professor of Romani Studies. He was made a FRSA and awarded
a very well deserved OBE in 2009 for his
work in education, particularly securing education for Gypsy and Traveller
children in schools. As Emeritus Professor , Greenwich
University , Senior
Research Fellow
IDRICS Bucks
New University
and Visiting Professor Corvinus University ,
Budapest , Thomas
is still very active at home and abroad seeking to help these Romani minority
groups of people. Thomas is married to Belinda, a nurse from Hong Kong . They have three children and six grandchildren to date.
Our other children and some of the
grandchildren have also achieved a very great deal. First daughter Alice has an
amazing number of qualifications ranging from B.Sc (Honours) in Physics and
Mathematics and Post Graduate
Certificate in Education ( Sussex University) to supplementary courses on Teacher Effectiveness, Special Needs,
British Council work, Information Technology for Special Needs Diploma (Keele
University) - and this is not a complete list. She has done several teaching
jobs ending as Deputy Principal of Burton
Hill School
(Malmesbury) for 8-19 years students
with physical disabilities and learning difficulties. She does a lot of
voluntary work and help at Malmesbury
Abbey Church ,
‘Through the Roof’ Charity, Food Bank ,etc. She is a talented creative artist
in drawing, painting, patchwork, etc. She
is well supported by Michael Langtree, her second husband. They have two
daughters.
Second son Jonathan went to Reading University and gained a BA (Hons) in
History and Archaeology and later, a MA
qualification from Brookes in Historical and Art Historical Studies. He has had
various jobs including some paid and unpaid voluntary work in Oxford Museums.
He used to love going on various archaeological digs.. He helps at his local Baptist Church
along with his wife Sam. She is from Malaysia and of Chinese extraction.
She is a highly skilled Agency Nurse. They have one daughter Jennifer who is a
Doctor of Opthalmology and mentioned below, where I refer to getting Macular
Degeneration in my Nineties.
Second daughter Sarah tried various jobs and
then qualified as a Psychiatric Nurse. She helps with Sunday School work at our
local Brentwood Baptist Church . She is married to Paul Beniston, who retired
from his Chartered Accountant job to undertake missionary trips to Calcutta with Sarah. The
Indian climate upset Sarah’s health so they settled back after a while in
Doddinghurst. They have one son.
Third son James gained a 2;1 in Mathematics
at Warwick University
and then a M Phil in Statistics at Liverpool
University . He is
currently employed by HM Revenue and Customs as an Analyst. In the last three
years he moved from a London
flat to a chalet bungalow in the road behind ours, positioned so that the ends
of our gardens adjoin. Thus he is able to keep an eye on my wife and self in
our nineties. Also he is a very great help to us with our computer problems. His
partner, Dr Elsa Damien, is French and a language expert. They are bringing up
their lovely four year old son to be bi-lingual.
Piano teaching career
(1982 to 2011)
Following my Civil Service
retirement, I spent roughly a year on DIY improvements to the house and garden.
My piano playing had necessarily been of a low-key nature in my working years.
I had done very little teaching or performing. Here was a chance to begin to
enjoy more exploration of the classics for myself, and begin modest home piano
teaching to children and adults. To my delight I found teaching piano one to
one delightful. I met some lovely children and adults and pupils shot up to 20+
a week. Grandson Timothy achieve grade eight at 15 and the three Taylor girls from Church
achieved two grade eights and a grade seven. At one time I was running Junior
and Senior workshops which were much enjoyed by me and my pupils. I also composed
short pieces which I would print out dedicated specially for each pupil. I
called them Whimsies. Timothy loved his personal Whimsy and memorised it at a
very early stage. Later on I began
giving home piano recitals of the
classics in aid of the British Red Cross.
Children’s and Teenage Novels .
Shortly after taking over the Senior
Leadership of the Brentwood Crusader Class from Mr Lindsay German, I encouraged senior
sixth-formers to help lead opening sessions of the Sunday afternoon class. One
such was David Ison who spoke well and introduced a novel feature, a short
extract from the adventures of ‘Super-Cru’, a character he had invented -
fiction but with a Christian bias. The
children loved it and brought their friends, eager to hear the next instalment.
Maybe a controversial item, but we made
a clear distinction between Super-Cru and the solid Bible teaching and hymn and
chorus singing which occupied 90% or more of the class time.
In five or six weeks David had to leave to
go to University. What was I to do? After prayer I quickly invented another
character, ‘Jack Banks’, a thirteen year old son of missionary parents. He is
sent to England
to a boarding school. He is shy and endures various trials until Christian
friends and teachers lead him to make the great ‘Discovery’. I had to write a
new episode for each week and semi-memorise it, so as to keep my eyes on the boys.
To my relief they kept on bringing their
friends and the class grew from about 25 to 50+ boys every Sunday afternoon. We
won the national Crusader recruiting shield for the year. Then I wrote ‘Jack
Banks on Trial’, a sequel to the first Jack Banks story.
For my teenage piano students, I wrote
‘Martin Ashworth Fourteen’ using musical forms (particularly first movement
sonata form) to guide the narrative, with an appendix to show how I had done this
plus brief notes on musical form. I wrote a sequel ‘Martin Ashworth Fourteen
Plus in normal format. I also wrote two more junior novels ‘Ben Bugden
Thirteen’ and ‘The King’s Son’. The latter is allegorical in nature and is set
many hundred of years ago in a Middle Eastern country. It has a reference to
God but no specific Christian bias which the other five novels have. I wrote it
so that I could give it to foreign pupils (Indian, Saudi etc piano pupils)
without giving offence.
I also hoped that it might be
useful in showing the futility of wars based upon a history of distrust.
between tribes.
I typed these stories and copied the pages
at home. Then published them in a
loose-leaf format with my own ISBN numbers. I also printed them in my ‘pianist-storyteller.blogspot.com’ blog.
Later my youngest son James helped me get them into Kindle Ebooks and finally
into glossy paperbacks by Create Space. They are available from Amazon where I
have been given an Author’s Page.
Doreen and I were privileged to be invited
to David Ison’s installation as Dean of St Paul’s Cathedral on25th May 2012. At
the very end of the long ceremony, David himself, as a good pastor, was at the
door saying a word to the remaining few who were leaving. I had not seen him for thirty years, although we had kept in
touch with Christmas letters. He recognised me with a start. After a few words,
he said he was chuffed that his ‘Super Cru’ stories had led to my novel writing..
Current activity
My piano teaching ended abruptly on 6th
May 2011 after I had given a public two
hours recital of classical music with a half-hour tea break at Valence House
Museum . It was to
celebrate the restoration of a 1828 grand piano and also became my ‘Swan-song’.
Family,
friends, my two brilliant Sri Lankan senior pupils and members of the public
crowded the very narrow audience space. It was successful in that I was being
asked if I could come again some time
But my right eye had developed Macular Degeneration and I had to
politely refuse. I was 90 and in a few days, my left eye also developed MD. I
could no longer read small print or music. So I could not continue teaching the
five or six pupils I still had. I was fortunate
that both my eyes have settled into a dry age related MD condition, with only a
very slow deteriorating starting.
Strangely we have a grand-daughter Jennifer, a Doctor of Opthalmology, who has
been researching MD here and in America .
She has given me some useful advice. So now I am writing these memoirs on an
extra large computer screen provided by
my expert and tender-hearted son James, who also gave me a Kindle
Reader.
Before I close I must apologise to the very many notable unmentioned. Christian leaders, friends, young people boys and girls who did so much for me. By rights they all should have had an individual mention in this account. I must confess that the strain of research and eye weakness at 94/95 plus laziness is my only excuse. Readers may be interested to know that Renown Pictures Ltd have issued a remastered DVD of the 1937 film “Talking Feet”. Eldest son Thomas gave it to me two or three years ago. It was a huge surprise. I believe it is still available to buy. Also the Renown Film Club tell me that it is occasionally shown on their Talking Pictures TV Channel 81’
At 93 and 95 Doreen and I have been happily married for 68 years and rejoice in our large family and many friends. Above all we cherish the gracious love of our heavenly Father and Jesus, who revealed Himself to us as we have walked together on our ownEmmaus Road ,
as prophesied in our wedding sermon by the Rev. John Pritchard.
Before I close I must apologise to the very many notable unmentioned. Christian leaders, friends, young people boys and girls who did so much for me. By rights they all should have had an individual mention in this account. I must confess that the strain of research and eye weakness at 94/95 plus laziness is my only excuse. Readers may be interested to know that Renown Pictures Ltd have issued a remastered DVD of the 1937 film “Talking Feet”. Eldest son Thomas gave it to me two or three years ago. It was a huge surprise. I believe it is still available to buy. Also the Renown Film Club tell me that it is occasionally shown on their Talking Pictures TV Channel 81’
At 93 and 95 Doreen and I have been happily married for 68 years and rejoice in our large family and many friends. Above all we cherish the gracious love of our heavenly Father and Jesus, who revealed Himself to us as we have walked together on our own
Still together - with Leila our sixth Grea-grandchild in 2014
1 Comments:
What a wonderfully detailed account of your life Dad.
It's a privilege to be your daughter and I thank God for your love and care throughout the years.
This is an important record for the family, thank you for all the hard work getting it down on here.
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